I feel your pain and need for answers. I was very much the same. I really think you need to move out to your own place mate. That you've stayed there so long shows just how strong you actually are. Your W is no longer the woman you knew. She became a vampire, sucking all your strength and energy. The more you're around, the stronger she gets and the weaker you do. Get out of there. Be the lighthouse from afar, where your light and energy guides her back, rather than burns her. Visualise that.
I lasted 3 months months IHS, and it was killing me, and I always thought I had granite willpower.
Are you close to water, or any recreational facilities? Can you get away for a couple of weeks on a solo holiday?
Can you tell us your interests, what you used to do, and maybe we can brainstorm some ideas for you for GAL.
I'm the same too in that I had very little friends and family, and virtually none close by. I visualised myself as some sort of warrior/traveller, walking down a lonesome road, by myself. It's a lonely road we travel mate, but F*&k it - DILLIGAF!
You're a lone wolf mate. Embrace that power and harness all that energy. Visualise that. Squash thoughts of W. Throw them to the side and maul them. Visualise the tough, strong lone wolf you are. Your wolf pack's here now.
Work out like a banshee. When W sees you, she will see you are AMOAFWL. Visualise that and make it happen
Have you got mates at all you can sms/call? I had one really close friend who I'd text and call daily, sometimes several times a day at the beginning.
Get your own place. Don't buy, just rent.
Whenever thoughts of W or loneliness creep in like an insidious cancer, squash them, smash them and maul them.
Visualise.
You've got this Wolfman. Be the Wolf!
I'll check up on you daily for the next few days.
Regds, D
Me: early 40's XW: nearly 50 T: 15 M: 5 BD: Jan 19 S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24
