hoos, you make great points. This jumped out at me: "Thankfully, she was still someone i wanted to be with and i someone she wanted to be with."

Obviously I think we all have dealbreakers that would mean if our spouses turned into X then we would walk. And there is the old saying that goes: "Women marry a man hoping he'll change, men marry a woman hoping she won't."

I am actually surprised, just like I was last December, how strong the desire to pull the plug is right now. It has taken me by surprise. I keep hearing the words of one of our vets: "Relax, nothing has changed, take your time and don't do anything rash." I almost suffocated right now when around her in the house. I really need to pray hard. I can see me slipping into a GAL glut. I have been home so little the last few weeks and I think that is my subconscious pushing me further and further away.

I am thankful for this forum as being a safe place to discuss what is going on in my head!


Last edited by Steve85; 09/26/19 12:46 PM.
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