Not sure what to do after ILYBNILWY

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Just discuss with that I want to hold off doing anything until S is gone

I'd leave this out. She's going to take it the wrong way.

I won’t bring up the OM, as I thing that’ll take any talk in a bad direction.

If you're going to bring up separation/divorce, I'd state it point blank. "I'm divorcing you because you are a cheater and have been involved with Mr. OM for some time. I didn't think you had betrayal in you but I was wrong". Hand her papers, turn and walk away. Focus on getting through this. This would be a strong approach.

I think this is a great opportunity for you to take the initiative in your situation. I think it puts your W on her heels. She may not care too much. She may hurt a little, but be relieved. Who knows, who cares?

Your son will be able to handle this. I was 16 when my parents broke the news to us. I was very upset. But I had the best summer of my life that year because I was 16 and had good friends and this whole amazing world to explore.

( my daughter told me that about 3 years ago, W said if we divorced, it would be once they were both out of the house.)

I imagine if your W said that to your daughter 3 years ago, she already had OM in the works for some time.

I don't have a good feeling about this Rick, which is why I advise you to take the approach that keeps your respect and shows you are strong enough to get through anything.

Anyways, more awesome weather, hope you are getting out before the days get too short.