Is the rest of my life ruined???

[Ske0187]

Kas, CW, DS,

Thanks for your responses. Fantastic advice all.

I feel like a third grader wanting to say "I know!"

I read all of this advice on here and other places, over and over again but then once the "battle" is joined, it all goes out the window and I draw a blank or screw up.

It's like I took the class and then when I'm in the lab, I forget the freakin procedures...

I really appreciate the critiques. It will let me try to apply the techniques better next time. (I hope...)

Yeah, she's definitely projecting. It's one of the things she did before the BD. She must have accused me of cheating 15 times.

She was also gaslighting hardcore when I asked her why I couldn't get a hold of her on the phone after she was supposed to be off work. She'd say I was nuts, didn't know how much work she had, blah, blah, blah...

CW

I read that communication piece again yesterday. One of the things I've always had to do is to go back and explain my intent when I've said something that was taken out of context. I've become a little better on first articulation choosing my words more carefully. It's way easier to get my point across if I haven't sent her into orbit first.

"Never tell her to calm down again." That should be a mantra like "There's no place like home, there's no place like home" I may have that tattooed on the back of my hand.

Thanks again!