I see a lot of postings about wayward wives not much on husbands . Any links would be helpful . Haven’t quite mastered detachment . Work in progress there . Do I think he’s actively having an affair -no . Potential with his current behavior absolutely. I’ve been really trying to do more of what works . I’m pleasant and friendly but a bit distant when he’s around . He becomes clingy . The pursuer. Keeping it more airy and fun .The other day I threw out a feeler and said I really like spending time at night with you . Immediately I got “ you will find someone to do that with again “ I ignored the comment. Then I get the next day random hints at a date . I don’t really bite at it all then it’s so you wanna go to this music festival . I go . We have a great time as usual , dates are our strong point. He doesn’t say he loves me but doesn’t need to. Says it in other ways. But there’s this huge part of me screaming inside “ I’m seriously dating my husband of 12 years someone come smack me “ . I will grab DR and read it . I read DB. It is confusing when it comes to sex some say do it some say don’t . I do not like the back n forth and emotionally it does take a toll .
