I don’t think going is would be considered cake eating it would be more to check the boxes of we tried everything.
Yep, I agree this may be to say we tried everything. Accepting that POV makes it easier to keep my expectations low going in.
My comment regarding cake eating was alluding to the notion of her being able to maintain the status quo for a couple more months with the horse, family, and benefits of marriage.
I do feel she is torn between giving up the awesome single life that allows her to do what she pleases and the stability and security of the lifestyle that she has in our MR. Unfortunately, she can’t yet see how to be happy in the MR. She won’t acknowledge the possibility of a win-win scenario (married and happy).
Me:41 W:39 S:9 D:6 T:20 M:16 PA:8/22/18, BD:11/6/18 PA discovery & IHS:12/3/18, W moves:4/2/19 R’ville:9/27/19, I give D docs:3/1/20 W home:4/5/20 (due to CV-19), W NC w/OM:4/13/20 6/1/20