I wouldn’t as long as she is still emotionally invested in the OM it’s a waste of time and money. Couples counseling only works when two people are invested in saving/improving the relationship.
Also remember you don’t have to address all the problems she has with you. Only if they are valid behaviors you want to change. If she has a problem with you eating healthy and you like eating healthy, don’t change that behavior to placate her.
Thanks again LH. And yes, I'm only addressing behaviors that I would want to change for myself.
So if you were in my shoes right now, you would seriously just stop the counseling and stop the dinners and the texts and the emails and the hanging-out, until she ends it with the OM? It seems like a very extreme thing to do, and I guess that's where I get hung up. I'm afraid I'll never see her again if I do that.
Two weeks ago, I didn't contact her for an entire week, and I made sure to give her the space that she was requesting. I didn't text, or email, or call, or anything, but I did accept dinner invites (always initiated by her). At the end of the week, she initiated sex, and I of course complied. I don't know if that tells you anything.
