Been lurking some time but feel it’s time to come toward .
History been together 12 years married 4. Second marriage for both . Both have 1 child from first marriage and have 1 child together .
Rocky relationship for some of the time . Had a few move outs on his part for short periods usually few weeks then we would always reconcile . Some arguments on both ends have turned quite physical or verbal . Many periods of calmness as well over the 12 years . Spend a lot of time together dating and enjoying each other’s company . He is always liked more freedom to come and go with his friends . Myself I enjoy my life to be filled with my kids and my husband . Always a source of conflict .
About a year ago we had one of our verbal fights . I said hurtful things he did as well . About a month or so after he became let’s say “withdrawn” stopped saying I love you and basically was a dead fish . Out with friends . Ignoring me when home . Gym . Golfing ..no sex unless I initiated. I picked up the pace planned more outings and get aways . Just left him alone when out . He then tells me in April he was planning on moving into a condo alone , full blown plan while I had no idea but feels more secure now .
Obviously this did not sit well with me and threw me into a tail spin . So months of back n forth of him saying he wanted to be there had little avail on me and out the door he went in a fit of rage after another fight .
First 3 days did all the no no no’s. Beg plead cry
So 3 months in this is where I am . He has said he has no intentions of coming home . He loves me but wants to be alone and not in a relationship . From the get go he has been staying over 2-5 nights a week . Yes in the marital bed and yes is intimate every time .I rarely over last few weeks call or text. But he will everyday .Some of the nights are planned to help with children . Some he just wants to spend time with me and the kids . I GAL often . I don’t ask where his is nor do I offer where I am . Anytime I say something about relationship or hinting at something he pulls back with eventually you will find someone else .
What in the world do I do here ??? Stay like this ??? Pull the rug out and cut ties ??
