My reading of your first message is that you caught her in an EA and told her to stop texting the OM. She refused, but gave you the consolation prize that you can date others (a break).
Well first she dropped the bomb on me (“I love you but I’m not in love with you”). Then a couple of days later, I caught her texting the OM. She then agreed to “take a break” in lieu of getting a divorce, with the understanding that we could see others during the break (but that we could not do anything physical or sexual with them).
Originally Posted by CWarrior
Who proposed these terms, and why did you agree to them (potentially expanding her affair to local people)?
She proposed the terms. I said I didn’t feel comfortable with those terms, and then she kind of shut down on me and it seemed like she was backing off the idea of a “break” and just going back to the idea of a “divorce.” In order to appease her and avoid her filing for divorce, I agreed to her terms.
