I'm sorry you're here and going through this. I have a few questions below because I really want us to understand your situation so we can do our best to help you. Take care, and well wishes.
Originally Posted by "Choco44"
Husband had an affair 11 years ago and we reconciled.
Are there any indicators of an affair now?
Originally Posted by "Choco44"
Also, he spoke with my daughters councillor who told him us getting divorced right now would be catastrophic for her.
Do you agree?
Originally Posted by "Choco44"
Also, How do I know he’s not moving around finances, etc....how can I get my ducks in a row in case this really does go South?
Retain an attorney. Get a free consultation.
Originally Posted by "Choco44"
I kind of feel like this is allowing him to live a double life...getting all the benefits of home life (no sex) but experimenting with freedom and what it would be like to be single.
In what way(s) do you see him experimenting with what it would be like to be a single man?
Originally Posted by "Choco44"
I want to talk about selling the house, and money, etc. to give him a little does of reality, but so far I haven’t said anything.
Sounds like drama. I'd skip anything like this.
Originally Posted by "Choco44"
I wrote an apology letter (2 wks ago) and he knows I would do anything to save the marriage (which he said makes things worse, because "why couldn’t you do that before."
What did you apologize for? You mention your 180s involved less contact with him, and you want to give him doses of reality.. do any of your 180s address what you were apologizing for?
