But she asked me to share info with her from now on and I agreed. Soooo?
Oz, it's amazing how many pins you're juggling. Congratulations on making progress with your wife!
Just an idea--could you thread the needle? I.e., instead of saying nothing (the distancing which got her to pursue) or going into full info dump mode (what got her to back away), could you keep your promise by giving her a 1-2 line unemotional summary on the days things happen, as you might update an acquaintance? That would empower her to ask for more info only on the days she wants and can handle it.
Hopefully others will chime in with a variety of options to choose from. Stay strong!
