I am sorry things with H have come to this. And I am not, because you are doing so very well. I think one has to live this to appreciate the duality of it. The bad and the good.
Your D sees her Dad’s true colours; evident from her comments of proceeding with divorce. She’ll follow your lead and do fine. Keep that levelheaded outlook, and cordial approach; it’s inspiring.
Walking a really good path Grace.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.