Still Moving (Saying ILY Pt 7)

[mtb1981]

I forgot to say this in my original update a couple day ago, and I think it's an important thing for everyone on this forum to realize. A few weeks ago, when we were getting ready to sign all of the paperwork WW made a few comments that really stuck out. A couple of days before she signed, she called me out of the blue to tell me that she still loved me and that she always will. That she was sorry for any pain that she caused me and never meant to hurt me. That she was seeing things differently now. I just let her talk. When she finished, I just said "OK. Thanks". Then there was a long pause like she was waiting for me to say something else. I finally asked her if that was all she wanted. She said yes. Then another long pause. I told her I had to go and got of the phone...

The next day, she sent a text talking about how she was second guessing everything, and wanted me to contact her. I did not. I have moved on and realize I am in a much better place...

On the day she signed the papers, she sent another text saying she never thought it would come to this and wished we could go back. I did not respond to that either...

Like many others on the board have mentioned, it is not uncommon for the WW to change their tune when it comes down to the final minute. I cannot definitely say if it was because she truly had a change of heart, or she wanted to pull me back in to play her games and string me along for future use. I guess my point is, it's not over until it's over. It's easy for the LBS to lose hope, but if you are truly committed to your marriage, stand as long as you can (unless abuse/addiction are an issue). I'm not saying you should push for divorce hoping it scares them, but rather things get real for the WW when it reaches that point...