Focusing on me (The Mikey B story Part 3)

[mikeyb]

Thanks for the update, always good to read that. Have you been progressing financially as well?

Yes, financially I have been in a much better state. I have some money stashed away and am almost a month ahead on my bills. Very proud of myself for that. The stbxw has made her final payment on the wedding loan so that is settled. All that's left is this bill she's trying to stiff me with.

Keep up that GAL. It helps immensly. I also got to the point where I did not want my EXWW back. Her PA was a dealbreaker. It hurt, don't get me wrong. However, I am doing much better now after D.

Its all a negotiation regarding the Marriage Settlement. My EXWW went and got an attorney immediately once she realized that she would owe me some big bucks. We settled out of court and filed together in the end.

I could have went after stocks, 401K etc. I would have ended up about $50K+ in the green if I did that. However, I negotiated with her to avoid court. I even have a free attorney through work, so my attorney would have been paid for. I settled for about half of what I could have received if we had gone to court. I got 50% custody and exactly what I needed financially to move forward and move out. This is the first time in 20 years I have not owned a home. But its good not to have so much debt. Now I just have my car and a little bit of credit card debt (Hiring a private investigator to catch your WW cheating is expensive, but worth it)

Don't drag it out. Treat it all as a business transaction moving forward. Its a contract negotiation. You both will not get exactly what you want. But you both will end up content with what you do get. Don't be petty, its pointless and drags things out. If you have to go to court then so be it. Make sure she is aware that you have zero issues going in front of a judge. She will threaten you with her attorney. Who cares, legally you are entitled to half of everything.

Agreed, I'm trying not to be petty but she has caused me to be out of pocket over $2k so far from this, and I intend to recoup some of that and am not trying to drag it out either, there really is very little that I want from her and she knows what I can get. If she's tries to drag this to the judge then I will go for it all and I've made that clear. So we shall see. Want it done already, especially cuz of my next set of news....

Soooooo, I've been talking with this woman for a little over a week now daily. Conversation has been great, so today I went out on a limb and asked her to go out on Sunday and she agreed. I'm honestly super nervous, it's been 13 years since I've done this but I'm really excited about it too and don't really want to mess it up because she seems amazing. Might just be the excitement making me nervous lol. Gonna try and enjoy my trip on friday-saturday and hopefully calm myself down some before sunday.