AS - I've had the same thoughts about the money. It's kind of funny because she was blowing my phone up non stop to get the settlement check. Gave me a sob story about how she was going to be evicted from government housing for being behind on rent and her power was going to get shut off if she didn't pay the power company immediately. This went on for 4-5 days until everything was finalized and it was safe for me to give her the check. My lawyer told me not to give her anything until everything was entered because she could say it was a gift if she got it before the court ordered it. The next day when I took the kids to see herm, she had a brand new iPhone. I'm sure the money will be gone in no time. Oh well, not my problem...
Unfortunately I've had a little too much experience with family members and drug addiction. What you describe is very typical, when they see that carrot dangling and all that is between them and that payday is you then they will bug you incessantly. You and I might say "wow that's not much money, they better make it last" but to them it's a billion dollars, they can spend and spend and it will always replenish itself. Except of course it doesn't. They go on a drug binge and then one day the drugs run out and wow, the money is gone too? Then here they come with a new sob story. "Not my problem" is clearly your mantra... and it has to be! There is no other way. You can't get in the middle of that, because you can't pull her up, she can only drag you down. She's got to keep floundering until she hits bottom and then HOPEFULLY she'll do the right thing and get professional help. Unfortunately there's rarely a happy ending for addicts.
