Just over two years since ILYBINILWY and the relationship ended and exactly one year since BD. I would like to say i have dropped the rope and completely moved on but I still have a ways to go. Especially this week for some reason I keep wondering if she is having second thoughts and it is driving me a bit crazy. In reality nothing has changed on her end and she likely is still committed to D. Finally after several letters from my lawyer she has come up with some sort of proposal regarding property/financial division. Nothing at all was proposed about the kids. It wasn't submitted to my lawyer though, she forwarded me her lawyers email to her asking if she wanted it submitted to me officially. She then wanted to get together with me to discuss things between the two of us in an effort to cut down legal costs. I agreed, she set up a date and time, she then cancelled last minute and for two weeks it has been me requesting dates and times that would work with no response. Yesterday I received a note from my lawyer stating that her counsel had advised we would be sorting things out on our own and not going through attorneys anymore. News to me. We can discuss some matters on our own but of course we will be going through lawyers. In any case this is likely where my feelings are coming from, the closer we get to a formal separation agreement the less she wants to actually do to make it happen. Any conversation about the parenting schedule, finances, the house and property she avoids like the plague. The only two options I see are, she is taking full advantage of not having to deal with life on her own and using me or option two she is having second thoughts. Before you all whack me believe me I know it is most likely the former.
With all that my plan of attack is to get myself re focused, request a meeting with her through my laywer and hopefully get the official separation agreement done and then I can get out into a new home.
