I don't want to tip over into self righteousness. I want to let him go his own way, and instead concentrate on where I find apologies hard. My H was abusive and I allowed that to happen - to the detriment and damage of myself and also, more importantly, my children. But that doesn't let me off the hook for the various ways in which I failed him as a wife. I want to concentrate on that, without putting all my effort into 'attracting him back' because I don't know if I want him back!
