So I think she likes to have dinner with me, and it’s one of her “cake-eating” habits. What if I were to tell her that as a new rule during our “break”, we cannot have dinner together unless she has stopped communicating with the OM for X number of days (let’s just say, 3 days). Do you think this “boundary” would be beneficial or advisable? That way, the onus is on her to modify her behavior instead of on me (because it’s been very hard for me to deny her).
And if she were to agree to it, I think she would be honest in enforcing it. I think the guilt would eat her up otherwise.
