Focusing on me (The Mikey B story Part 3)

[SoTorn]

Keep up that GAL. It helps immensly. I also got to the point where I did not want my EXWW back. Her PA was a dealbreaker. It hurt, don't get me wrong. However, I am doing much better now after D.

Its all a negotiation regarding the Marriage Settlement. My EXWW went and got an attorney immediately once she realized that she would owe me some big bucks. We settled out of court and filed together in the end.

I could have went after stocks, 401K etc. I would have ended up about $50K+ in the green if I did that. However, I negotiated with her to avoid court. I even have a free attorney through work, so my attorney would have been paid for. I settled for about half of what I could have received if we had gone to court. I got 50% custody and exactly what I needed financially to move forward and move out. This is the first time in 20 years I have not owned a home. But its good not to have so much debt. Now I just have my car and a little bit of credit card debt (Hiring a private investigator to catch your WW cheating is expensive, but worth it)

Don't drag it out. Treat it all as a business transaction moving forward. Its a contract negotiation. You both will not get exactly what you want. But you both will end up content with what you do get. Don't be petty, its pointless and drags things out. If you have to go to court then so be it. Make sure she is aware that you have zero issues going in front of a judge. She will threaten you with her attorney. Who cares, legally you are entitled to half of everything.