I've been GAL'ing like crazy this weekend, but finding myself really triggered today.
My W is off with the kids out of town this weekend.
- She did not tell me she was pulling the kids from school both Friday and Monday for this trip until I asked. - After giving me a hard time about car seat safety, she told me S7 has been riding without a car seat all weekend. - We have 2 credit cards for stores that have very high balances this month, and I don't know why. These are both cards my W pays. One of the stores I did not use at all last month. - She withdrew a fairly large amount of cash, an amount above which we agreed we would notify each other. She never notified me.
The financial stuff is frustrating - I went online to pay a bill and was not snooping.
The stuff with the kids is also frustrating.
My thoughts are:
1. We have a follow-up with the financial advisor this week. This may be the best venue for me to address my financial concerns.
2. I think my W and I should be communicating regularly for doctor appointments, school things, etc. and not waiting for a 1:1 call which happens every 1-2 weeks. A short update is helpful.
3. The car seat safety thing I am going to let go. Just because she would hold my feet to my fire if I did that, I am not going to go tit-for-tat.
Any feedback is very welcome... I want to be able to stand as long as I can, but this current setup is not helping. Maybe that means a formal financial separation, I'm not sure.
