crazy how your situation is like mine. I see only that your XW is trying to see your D. That is good, kids need both parents during a seperation. Now I say that only if it's a healthy relationship. So far it doesn't sound healthy.
You seem like a solid guy. Looking out for your D. Keeping it real and no lies. Your D is 13, she is well aware of what is a lie and what is the truth. You are her rock. Keep it like that. She will know who she can trust.
Your D13 will come to her own conclusions about her mom. Sad but the way your XW is handling things she will lose her D.
As for your XW. Her telling her friends the reason for leaving you is only to justify her actions. She will feel better is you are the bad guy. Anyone that has witnessed your XW current behaviour, 3 months missing in action , left her D, with a new guy so fast and her personal happiness a priority. They too will see that something is wrong with your XW. Mothers don't put a man or a hobby before their kids. Especially during a hard time such as divorce. This is where she needs to show love, compassion and tell D that she is still loved and it's not her fault. Your XW is in a dark place. She might look happy and confident. That is only a mask to hide her pain from the world.
Don't let the rewriting of history get to you. Keep notes on everthing XW does. Protect your D and yourself. Avoid your XW rollercoaster of being nice one day to attacking the next. I think there are a few spew jackets available from past LBS's , maybe someone can send you one.
Sorry again that you are here Rooskers. But at the same time, I'm happy you are , there is a lot of wisdom here. Read , read , read, don't respond to XW with emotion. Don't try to test her, question her or provoke her. Stay neutral but stay firm. I am sure you got this.
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M51 XW43 (38 at bd) BD1 MAY 30 2015 BD2 JUNE 25 2015 by text moved out Aug 2 2015 left both Daughters 13 and 15 (now 18-20) Her divorce Final July 26 2016 Last time she saw her kids Aug 2 2015
