I think many of us here, give it the time 2-5 years of healing and seeing where our H land--
We all have needs and choices and if our H cant step back in the R after a reasonable healing time- We can make the choice for them But some want to stand for longer and hold on to the vows and that is fine too It is a personal choice
It seems the hardest part is over...the path to acceptance that this M may be over for good-
good luck
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow