It was my idea to try MC. The first session was matter of fact, no raised voices or crying. The MC surmised that we are two good people who have just grown apart. Wife mentioned all the usual MLC language, (I’ve felt like this for a long time” “You’re a good man and I care about you but I’m not in love with you” “I got married too young” etc. I just tried to actively listen and validate her feelings. She is depressed and in a MLC, and she’s throwing away everything because she thinks that will make her happy. She had said “it’s not you, it’s me” a couple of times, too. I’m going to see how it goes with a general strategy to validate and listen. Truthfully, I’m tired of being in limbo land already, and it’s only been 3 months. We will see what happens!
