22 years gone

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XW told D13 she didn't have an affair and isn't seeing the guy anymore. I know that doesn't even make sense but then when does the XWW ever make sense? She told D13 that she must have seen some other women with the guy. D13 was having a hard time yesterday because she believes XW and OM are still together and XW is just hiding it. I try to steer her away from thinking about it but she is afraid she will go over for her visitation and he will be there. I don't lie to her and tell her that is a very real possibility. She is going to a therapist and I am hoping her therapist can give her some coping mechanisms. Has anyone gone through this? What things did you do to help your child? Since XW has denied and lied to her about it I feel like it will almost be like a D-day for daughter if her fears are confirmed.

The guy who my D13 and I believe she was having an affair with when I was married to her probably is still in the picture but I pretty much could care less anymore. He can have XW and all the baggage and issues she comes with. If I had met XW for the first time today I could honestly say she isn't my type. Her values, morals, even looks have changed to such a point she is not the same person I new for 22 years. I hate what she did and work toward letting go of my hatred for her. I do hope one day she is truly remorseful for what she has done. For now indifference is the goal!

For me detachment is going great but still a long way to go. No physical/relationship/phone/text contact since 7/22. Email only and that is only in regards to D13.