Hey U - just caught up on your sit. Good for you sticking up for what you wanted with custody - glad to hear it
Originally Posted by unchien
It's all fine and good to sit and wait for my W to change (and I have seen no signs to date) and go to these sessions and have the MC point out little things, but I'm not sure it's really doing me any good.
Unfortunately it is going to take a whole lot longer than a couple of months. I think that's what the vets mean when they say this is a marathon. I think that's also why they say to consider the M dead at BD, and recommend not going to MC. However, if W is not going to IC, at least she is still open to going to MC. So I would view that as a positive, even if she is doing IC in MC (I hope that makes sense? Lol)
Neither you nor I nor anyone can change someone's perspective, especially in crisis type situations. They have to figure it out on their own. We can be sympathetic, empathetic, try to see things from their perspective, etc ad nauseum, but at the end of the day it is that person that has to pull themselves through it. Nobody else can.
Hope you have a good weekend, U - get some good GAL in there
