Last resort technique?

[curtis7]

Yes, she did specify that physical or sexual activities with others would be out of the question during our "break". So that does make me think that she's not really *that* close to turning her EA into a PA. But who knows. She may be saying that to just prevent me from moving on while she does whatever she wants. I don't believe that's the case, but I suppose that's a possibility.

Dbx, I wouldn’t trust her, mine said the same thing. Just before moving out my WW said that we should be free to date as long as it’s not taken too far (i.e. sleeping with others). What did she do? Moved out and went full blown GGW with multiple PAs.

Also, in yesterday's couple's counseling session, the counselor asked her if she was still texting the OM. She responded saying, "A little." The counselor asked if she had any plans to meet up with the OM. She said, "No, nothing like that." Then she said something like, "I know I would have to end the relationship with the OM entirely in order to give our marriage another try. However, I also don't want to feel *forced* to give up my relationship with the OM. I want to be able to reach that conclusion on my own. That's why I'm asking for space and time--so I can think about my life and what I want to do."

Around Valentine’s Day after I discovered that my WW had continued to meet her OM, I expressed to her how hurt I was and asked what she would want in a settlement. The next day she told me she deleted everything related to the OM from her phone and that it was over with him. Less than 3 weeks later it was back on. She said she resumed it out of principle. Any contact whatsoever with her OM or love interests resets the clock and she won’t be able to see you in a positive light, IMO.

I would just caution you to be highly skeptical of anything she says or does right now. They can launch very quickly into a world of darkness that you could never have imagined.

I know what it’s like to be Plan B (or more like C, D, or E for that matter). Don’t be like me. Listen to the vets here, they know what they’re talking about. I am a perfect example that nicing her back doesn’t work.