Last resort technique?

[ovrrnbw]

Thanks everyone for your responses.

I do wonder though: everyone on here seems so sure of themselves about what I should be doing. How many of you have actually reconciled with your spouses, and are now happily married?

We don't have any clear data, there is literally no clear data out there.

Is your pursuit plan working? Do you want to hear the experience of everyone here? Can you listen to advice and apply it to your situation? Are you reading other situations?

These situations have played out millions of times with predictable thoughts, feelings, and actions on both sides. You can absorb that information or not.

I’m not inviting her over for dinner. She just shows up to eat dinner whenever she pleases. It’s her house too, although right now she’s living in a hotel. So I cannot really just lock her out of the house. She has her own key. And yes, she also comes by the house to do laundry and to play with the dogs. And I promise I won’t hide from her! wink

Look up legal separation in your state. You possibly can legally keep her out of the house. Have you consulted an attorney yet?

This whole quote is troubling. You're just minimizing all her crap and while putting out the batsignal that you want her back. Why does she get access to the parts of the marriage she wants when she is having an affair and moved out? You promising not to hide from her just solidifies in my mind how you are going to try to be there to see her instead of going your own way.

This OM could have flown in already and you wouldn't be any wiser to it. My buddy takes flights to stay with hookups and hang out - it happens.

the counselor asked her if she was still texting the OM. She responded saying, "A little." The counselor asked if she had any plans to meet up with the OM. She said, "No, nothing like that."

Riiiigggghhhhhttttt. You should totally believe her....

What is the point of MC when she wants two men in her life? You are showing her that you are OK with her having two men in her life.

My head is about to explode. Man I have been where you are, and you are losing respect by the minute. You will regret that forever!