The thing is....and this is my opinion...I’m not sure he is super concerned about giving you false hope. He is more concerned about doing what he wants and what he feels like doing in the moment. Once in a while, he becomes aware of the fact that what he is doing might be giving you false hope so he confesses and absolves himself of the “sin”...so to speak. In other words, “I told you I was giving you false hope so if you have any hope at all, it’s on you, not me.” I think it is just as simple as that. My XH is the poster child for NGS... HATES to cause people upset....HATES it when people are mad at him...would do ANYTHING to avoid confrontation. In his case, he lied about everything and anything to the extent that it looked pathological. It wasn’t...he’s just an insecure boy who wanted to do the crime and get away with it.
I would stop having R talks if I were you Hope. Your H is telling you he hasn’t changed his mind. He still wants what he wants. He just wants you to be okay with it.
