Deciding When To Move On

[DaB35]

Validating is something I was late to the party with.

It works though. Recently I did something that was clearly pursuing/chasing. My W was not initially happy. After some advice here, I explained why I did what I did - in 1 sentence - I did not apologise for doing it, and simply validated that she would have felt upset by it. I didn't say "I didn't mean to upset you." I simply said "I can see how you might be upset by it." End of text.
The next day she replied apologising to ME, for "coming across as harsh."

It is a very odd way of thinking. I've never done it before, in any R, let alone my M. At 36, I'm only just learning this stuff!

Stick with it though. Don't ever be afraid of asking for pointers here, however insignificant a matter you think it is.

Slow down is really good advice. Don't expect things to turn around in a matter of days - this isn't a movie.