Oz, you really need to pay attention to what’s going on with you now.
You are going through cancer treatment and need lots of self care. And your wife is getting all the back rubs?
And when you said “wow, her day was really bad, I figured something awful was going on.
She can’t have her half day off after a concert?
Not for nothing, I expect a teenager to get upset at that. Especially with what’s going on, not really a big deal. Put your big girl panties on and wake up in the morning and go to work and call your boss an agile behind their back.
I do not like to invalidate anyone’s struggles. What might not seem like a big deal to me, might be a big deal to someone else. But I’m sensing a lot of immaturity on her part and lack of compassion for you.
Do not initiate any more backrubs. Be present, but you need to care for you.
