I cheated, we survived, now my wife's cheating

[JC08]

You are completely right, detaching will be difficult, I'm supposed to start moving into a house this weekend, been living in my aunts basement. So hopefully that will give my girls a little more structure and we can develop a better routine in a place of our own.

Heard through a mutual friend yesterday that to prepare for getting served papers, that she went to a lawyer yesterday to get the process started. I figured it was coming because lately that is all she has referenced, when we are divorced this or that.

After telling her that we are not going to befriends and that we can talk about children she has pretty much stopped contact. Hopefully not getting communication from her will help with the detachment.

I still can't see how this things is going to last. I know I cant have expectations, just got to accept that patience and time, whether divorced, are just things I have to deal with if I truly want to put our marriage back together. Like everything said, nothing I did or had been doing has improved or changed anything, so why not change everything. Detach, GAL, keep going to therapy.

I lost 40 pounds in 2 weeks after she told me she wanted separation. So I am back to a super healthy weight and joined a gym last week and started working out again. See where the journey leads. Letting go and trying to not worry about her, my kids future because of this, where things will be in a year, in two, those are the difficult things for me. I guess I should expect that though, I mean I have been out 45 days, her Affair is still a bright new shiny car that seems perfect at this point.

Thanks for listening everyone. Sandi I hope you can give some more insight into my WAW.