I find NC fine to deal with. I don’t feel the need to contact him actually as I had stopped texting and calling months ago. I agree completely that it is my decision now if he ever wanted to come home and that there would need to be quite significant changes.
The talk with the children, which I left to him was that he is going to stay with a friend for a while because Mum and sad have been having arguments and we need some space apart to see if things can be fixed. I added that we both love them very much.
H cried his whole way through, I managed not to.
Because they are used to him being away for sport etc and the way he said for a while I think they think it’s short term. But then this morning they seem to be quiet and asking for hugs etc.
I am going to plan some fun things for us as a family and for me on my own to look forward to.
He has text twice already asking how we are, saying he’s sorry and how I feel. I haven’t replied.
