The last straw

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I am struggling with how to stay quiet and avoid any communication, outside of what she may start, and trying to build trust. Seems counterintuitive.... R2C and AS were here and could use some support in this as I’m a bit lost.

Yesterday, I did text her confirm if she didn’t have dinner planned, I would pick up something and put on the grille. Did that and she complimented me on dinner then she cleaned up as I had to take care of horses. Overall a good night as I finished in the barn and returned to the house to find D2 and W in bed. No convo this morning and just a text from her telling me she watered horses. I thanked her and nothing since including coming into the house this eve. Just back to non communication which is why we have struggled in the past.

Steve....any suggestions on actions instilling trust and integrity are greatly appreciated!

Starting to waffle about whether it’s worth the fight looking back at the history and knowing what a mountain I need to climb with no promises that #1. She is going to even participate and #2 I don’t want to be 60 and starting over.

Maybe some vets could shed light on this as I am fighting it.

With D1 planning on her wedding here in June 2020, I am wondering if I am just being played as I have been. She works from home and no interruptions to her, status quo. Lives in the back br and all is good for her. Time is on my side but it’s tough to know what’s up esp not communicating.


She said last wed night she will never be able to love me again like a wife. Said she had paperwork on her computer to fill out for the L but stated I told he r I would not give her the tax returns etc....something I don’t recall saying. Figured she would give me a copy so I can give her what she needs but there has been no attempt to talk about it since. Starting to think either she can file regardless which makes sense to me and that her L isn’t getting the paperwork complete in a timely manner......or......is she stalling? Either way, I am thinking it’s outside of my control SO LEAVE IT ALONE......harder said than done.

Feeling lost in this......any help would be greatly appreciated.

Also how do I copy quoted portions so I can answer ....sorry for the learning curve, lol!

Zip