4 months in....(Re: Advice needed)

[peacetoday]

K,

You did ok- its hard to deal with this type of crazy

and Truthfully, I dont think it matters-

They will leave no matter what we do-if that is in their mind

They will push the envelope so far until they get a reaction-
they will take NO responsibilty for their part, of anything
He is escalating and will find a way to justify his actions and make it about you anyway-


I think what matters more at this time is you and your kids
What do you need to do to take care of things when/if he leaves
Do you have a plan, so he cant walk over you

No matter what they say about taking care of you and the kids, once they leave there commitment shifts to their new life
I agree with KML..The new lifestyle with OW will grow old and her kids will be in a worse off position living with them

I would protect the kids first with legal help/counseling to deal with their pain and confusion- until they adjust
and they will adjust as long as you remain solid-

Im sorry for your pain--
hang in there