Think of it this way. Imagine you now intensely disliked someone who once was very close to you, and wanted them nowhere near you. This is how your W feels about you now.
Would it make you feel better about that person you now dislike if they hovered around you? Probably not. In fact, you'd probably dislike them more.
Listen to LH19, ovrrnbw and the other veterans here, and trust the process they put to you. You're lucky in that you've come here early. Make sure you've read Sandi's 37 rules - print them off. Start DB'ing! Her leaving you means you need to adopt a DILLIGAF attitude to that.
Originally Posted by Dbx80
Being passive and distant like that doesn't sound like a winning strategy to my logical brain.
There is very little logic to the actions of these spouses who leave. Trust me, I'm a big logic guy and I'm still struggling with the lack of logic 7 months later. Your W's decision was emotional.
Originally Posted by Dbx80
But don't people have to be friends before they become lovers and life-long partners?
Not really mate. When I first met my XW at a club, within 5 minutes she was 'reading my palm' and telling me there was a line on my palm which said she'd be my next lover. It's about emotion, attraction, and the vibe you give off.
Good luck mate!
Me: early 40's XW: nearly 50 T: 15 M: 5 BD: Jan 19 S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24
