Not sure what to do after ILYBNILWY

[Rick71]

just treat it as another day and say nothing unless she does?

Do this. You can also get a simple card, and have it "just in case" she gives you one first, but most likely it will just stay hidden and you never give it to her.

Should I just put it away somewhere so she doesn't see it

YES.

Thanks R2C, this is what I was thinking, just need another opinion.

So her being home was probably more for her convenience than being home with me.

Probably.

But this is where you need to 180. You need to be the one she is worrying about.

Yea, I need to do a lot better on this with GAL. I downloaded the Meetup app on my phone. I'm going to try it out if I can get the courage to meet up with people I've never met. Its going to take me way out of my comfort zone, which I think I need. Although since I've been working out, dressing a bit better and taking better care of myself, I've noticed my self confidence is higher. Hoping that confidence makes it a bit easier to get out.

There was a thread i was reading the other day, don't remember who's, but one of the posts, the LBS mentioned he had relied on his W for a lot of his happiness. Made me realize I'm a lot the same. Actually until a few years ago, both my W and I would do almost everything together, although she did occasionally get out with friends.