What is the point of being scarce? On the one hand, I understand that being scarce will give her the "time and space" she has requested. On the other hand, I feel like giving her all this time and space will just bring her closer to the OM, whom she is still texting with on a regular basis (per her own admission).
Wouldn't it be better to be friendly and available with her so that she can see that I'm not the monster her wayward mind has suddenly framed me to be, and so that I can compare favorably to the OM? I feel like being scarce would just affirm her current thoughts about my being selfish and neglectful.
I guess what I'm asking is: Isn't it better to be friendly than absent? I'm not talking about pursuing her or pressuring her. I'm just talking about being present and friendly when we happen to be in the same room together for whatever reason.
And I know, I don't just want to be friends with her. I want to be her life-long husband. But don't people have to be friends before they become lovers and life-long partners?
I guess I just find it hard to believe that by leaving her alone and being scarce, that she will just magically "snap out of it" and coming running back to me. Being passive and distant like that doesn't sound like a winning strategy to my logical brain.
