This is in my signature:
"What is best for me kids is best for me"


It has severed me well.

Always ask yourself:
What is best for my daughter?

In most cases, it is best for the child to have both parents frequently and equally involved in their life. You are responsible for your relationship with your D. You can help guide your D to have a relationship with her mother. Help guide her to forgive. Help guide W to rebuild the R with daughter and gain forgiveness.

Love people, hate bad behavior.

This is what needs to happen. Multiple times if needed. I am in the middle of this with my step daughter16. She knows this very well. We are teaching grandma how to do this now.
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Apologize (I am sorry...)
depersonalize (place action in larger context)
shift intentions (I was trying...)
solidify commitment to change (take concrete steps to assure no repeats)
restore balance (put energy into relationship)
Example” I am very sorry I put a dent in your car. Nothing was going right that day. I didn’t want to give it to the valet because I know how much you love your car. So when I parked it myself on the street, that’s when it got hit. I’ve already called several places and got quotes. I’ll take care of it anyway you want. You can either give me the insurance information or I can give you the quotes. I am also going to have them detail the entire car so it will look like new. That’s on me. I feel so badly about this happening.”


Google "Make peace with anyone"

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712