22 years gone

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Ok another question for all who have gone through this for awhile. I sent XW an email (the only way we communicate) indicating D13 next counseling appointment as per her request.

Response from XW:

Thank you so much for the update. Can you let me know the plans for my visit time with D13 this weekend?

This is such a nice change from the demands and horrible emails sent in the past. Wow I think co-parenting might be possible. I let her know that D13 and her therapist are going to talk about XW visitation idea and I would let her know what they came up with. Then within minutes I get another email asking if D13 wanted her to attend the back to school event. I asked D13 and kept myself completely neutral giving her the control over her answer since D13 feels she has very little control in her life and she said "absolutely not!". So I send an email back saying D13 asks that you not attend. I thought this should be the end of it. XW responded "ok". I didn't expect that either usually it is something about how I am coercing D13 into hating her or some stuff like that. All was well until a little before 11pm.

XW sends a two page typed email from her phone talking about how she is open to mediated visitation and how she doesn't want to force D13 over but then goes on and on about her legal rights and D13 has to be with her. Then she starts up again on how she didn't understand anything in the divorce papers and didn't realize that she would only get D13 so few days as she does (the visitation was created by her not me and she was happy with it all summer). XW is even rewriting history to claim that the visitation is something D13 and myself came up with. She even told D13 that on her last visit causing D13 to get super super super pissed at her. Then she goes on about how I need to help her build their relationship and how it is not "unhealthy" for D13 to be with her. She talks about how heartbroken she is without D13 and how she can't heal without D13 and the silence from D13 is setting her counseling for herself back. Then she starts bragging about how successful she is at work and how she is in such great financial shape so she is able to afford this amazing lease in an expensive part of town. She keeps going on and on about how "Safe" it is for her. Finally she ends it with "I am legally a co-parent to D13 till she's an adult. She may choose to keep me out of her life at that point but I should have time together with D13 until then."

I have no idea what any of that was about. I have done nothing but encourage D13 to attend her visitations and have even given her ideas to make them more enjoyable. If it wasn't for me all but nearly begging D13 she wouldn't have gone on any of the visitations. D13 has completely unattached from XW and it almost seems like XW is doing what a lot of husbands do when they first find out about their WW. She won't give D13 any space, won't let D13 work with her therapist alone, tries to fill the visitation with non stop stuff. D13 just keeps pulling further and further away. Now it appears she is coming to me to fix it all for her.

I didn't reply back to her email.