So last night on webchat I tried to be cordial and talk, it’s what I’ve always done because it’s who I am. She feels if I don’t do this then I’m just mad at her, which is what I don’t want her to feel.
You are being a "nice guy" here. Not saying you should not be cordial but why are you giving so much importance to what she feels?
Originally Posted by HrtHsbnd
My response was that I’m sorry she felt that way about this weekend .
Do you realize how weird it is that you are saying sorry for her feelings? You are not apologizing for any specific things you did wrong but you are apologizing because she feels bad and her feelings are controlled by her and not you.
Originally Posted by HrtHsbnd
I thought I went out of my way to let her webchat with him, while honoring her wishes. I also said that while I appreciate her concern, I have no reason to be hostile towards her and have been honoring her wishes now for several months.
"Honoring her wishes"? Do you believe talking to her this way will make her respect you?
Originally Posted by HrtHsbnd
She never responded
Are you surprised?
Originally Posted by HrtHsbnd
But again, I’m trying to just listen and validate.
Do you really believe that? I see a lot of apologizing and NGS trying to please her.
