So last night on webchat I tried to be cordial and talk, it’s what I’ve always done because it’s who I am. She feels if I don’t do this then I’m just mad at her, which is what I don’t want her to feel.
Anyway, that goes about as good as it can go. Then I get a text from her that says I was very rude towards her last night and this past weekend. I was just doing what she was doing to me, such as leaving the room while they spoke as I wanted to make sure I didn’t cross any boundaries or upset her. Then she says that she wants to only talk about our son, which is what I do because that’s a healthy boundary where she’s not uncomfortable. She said she doesn’t want our conversations to be hostile, which again I am agreeing with whatever she says or listening and validating.
My response was that I’m sorry she felt that way about this weekend and that I thought I went out of my way to let her webchat with him, while honoring her wishes. I also said that while I appreciate her concern, I have no reason to be hostile towards her and have been honoring her wishes now for several months.
She never responded. But again, I’m trying to just listen and validate.
