My query tonight is whether or not anyone has considered their MLC spouse to be a narcissist - this is something I wonder about as the behaviour of of my ex husband mirrors both as narcissistic and MLC. Thoughts anyone??
I will also say my wife, who really had no signs or behaviours of narcissism (and was in fact very empathetic) became more and more self absorbed and after BD and for most of past two years has been completely self absorbed. A common reaction when we are in great pain or turmoil internally is to "pull in" and become self absorbed, it is a survival mechanism in a way.
As others says they are narcissists that have MLC, and then there are MLCers who become narcissists. So maybe try to go back a few years before BD and see what he was like before the crises really hit. That may give you more insight.
And congrats on being in a good place and living your life. That is indeed a great accomplishment.
