Sorry Oz I really thought you were in Australia.

I agree that you should just focus on yourself now, based on your W's lack of empathy. As others have said, that speaks to her character.

There are plenty of women who would jump at the chance to help out a great bloke who's having health issues.

Me: early 40's
XW: nearly 50
T: 15
M: 5
BD: Jan 19
S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24