Oh Oz... I am so sorry. Your W’s response to your request is such BS, IMO. Her boss must be a complete 100% A$$HOLE if she doesn’t think she would not give her time off for something so important. Honestly...most people have been affected by cancer in some way and it is rare to find someone who would not be understanding and supportive of something like this. It think it is just an excuse. It speaks to her current mindset and also to her character. Like you said...this is a life threatening illness not a sore back. My XH has done nothing to deserve my support in any way but if he needed me enough to ask, I would be there for him. I hope she reconsiders and is there for you during your treatment. Is she abandons you, I would think long and hard about having her if your life at all. Could you really reconcile with someone who abandoned you in your time of need? Seems to me you deserve much, much better.
And having been through this with my sister and both my parents, when you have consults like this, you should absolutely have someone with you as they will be able to better remember what was said and ask questions that you may not be able to think of as prematurely facing one’s mortality is never easy. Do you have a close friend who might fit the bill? Or a co worker? Really hope there is someone to at least help you get to and from treatments.
