Great weekend with the kids, took them to the beach yesterday. We didn't bring swimsuits as we weren't planning to swim, but I let them get sandy and wet in their clothes - they had so much fun.
Great to hear, U! Sometimes kids just gotta be kids
Originally Posted by Unchien
I'm not emotionally triggered by either of the above. I find it to just be further confirmation she prefers the status quo.
Good to hear your detachment is progressing and things seem to be evening out for you. That's one of the most difficult things about S.
From everything I've read here and other places, these things take years to resolve. I'm finally beginning to understand what the vets say when they talk about this being a "marathon". It truly is. It's different in ways for each of us. the best way I can think of it now is "settling in for the long haul"
Originally Posted by Unchien
If we were at 50/50 custody and a reasonable financial arrangement, I feel like I would be okay continuing in limbo for quite a long time. As it is, the imbalance in both arrangements does not work for me. We have MC in a couple days, this will be something I need to bring up. Otherwise I expect another "Let's meet again in a month" type of a session. Maybe legalizing this separation will be the way to go.
Would there be any necessary reason to legalize the separation? IMO If it's not necessary I wouldn't bring it up - it seems like pressure towards an outcome from my position, but again I'm no lawyer here and I dont know how that would affect any potential future dealings.
Sounds like things have evened out for you, U - I'm glad. Keep focusing on you and your kids
