You are talking to a friend and I appreciate all advice and thoughts/suggestions as i think it’s helping me grow and develop through this situation too.
This is the 7th time H has said he is moving out but this time seems to be actually sorting out his clothes and belongings. We will see and like to you say having no expectations is how I will try and be from now on. He has increased his nasty comments towards me.
I suppose I’m thinking ahead in terms of working out when he sees the children. He seems to think he will be calling in when he feels like it and “still wants to be able to talk to me and be friends” so I’ve been trying to think of how to deal with that. I will want NC unless it’s regarding the kids. You are right though, it’s letting my mind run away with itself and creating extra thoughts, stress and worry. I need to live in each day for now.
After 14 years I think H is fine. We are as good as married but without the paper.
