Guess I'm standing. Was "now what?"

[BarbH]

Thanks again all. And Job...truly the voice of wisdom. I had the feeling he wanted to come back, and when I did expanded search on those sites....they were only 1 or 2 visits. The stars aligned. Apparently "someone" told him to check out the Facebook dating app...so he did in Sept 6. Sept 7 he s at our friends cabin when a huge thunderstorm rolled in. He says he became very worried about what I would do if something went wrong at the house. Then he says he said to himself "what the he'll am I doing?". Left the cabin late at night to head back to town. I saw that on the tracker ( which had been left in for my benefit). Then I called the next day basically saying "I can't cope with this so we are strictly business partners". Boom.

He seems exhausted. Talk again about house, retirement etc. I just said "there time enough to talk about the house". And " when you feel safe and secure enough in our new relationship, go ahead and retire. ". He knows now what his financial picture is vs our financial picture. I said "we 'd date a bit and then invited him in a date to the Downton Abbey movie when it comes out. (One of our fav series). He rather fiercely said "yes and we will be going as husband and wife!"

Lots and lots of work to do.
But now we seem to be pulling in the same harness.

But for now I'm in the air heading for Halifax where my friends still don't have power. Candles and wine i guess! Still going to have fun.

Good luck to everyone. May your road always rise up to meet you. I will keep posting.