Deciding When To Move On

[HrtHsbnd]

I’m sorry, but I don’t understand what you’re saying. Maybe I’m overthinking it.

Why does my wife want to build distance between us when there’s already enough?

If there isn’t enough for her, what I’m hearing you say is that it’s because she wants to build her own life without me?

I am trying to build my life around myself and my son, but still keeping her part of it as my wife, too. Are you saying you don’t think she’s doing that?

Of course it was easier for her because she’s the one that walked away. But she still says she doesn’t know what she wants. Her parents are only getting more upset with me, so I’m sure that may make up her mind soon.

Why do WAS try to build distance between us? Don’t they think there’s enough? Why do you think she is doing it?

When I walked away from my ex-wife, I built distance between us, so I could focus on MY life. I guess it's similar to the way DB'ing advocates lovingly detaching so you can focus on YOUR life. The difference (imho) was it was much easier to detach when I was the WAS and leaving had been on my mind over a year.