I cheated, we survived, now my wife's cheating

[JC08]

I picked my kids up Friday evening and then dropped them back off at 5 on Sunday. During that time she never contacted the kids, no text or phone calls. She sent me 2 text all weekend, one on Saturday morning asking if I was getting lots of friend request from girls on Facebook, just responded no. (Thought it was weird of her to ask, I did see she removed that she is married from FB). Then Sunday asked if I was still planning on 5pm drop off, which I just replied, "that is my plan".

So I drop the kids off, walk in the house, when I see her I looked at her smiled and said "hey, how are you?", and then went on telling my girls bye. Got done with that and said ok girls I got to go, have a few things to go do, and headed to toward the door. Said, " Okay see you later, hope the girls are good". Then she started in with, really, this is how we are going to be? we are just not going to talk? I just kept calm and said well you didn't talk to me all weekend just giving you the space I thought you wanted from me(She was with the OM, all weekend, you could tell she hadn't been home, and there was a big stack of clothes in her front seat), . She then said, "we have four girls to raise, we have to talk" I asked her if there was something to talk about with the kids? She said no, but you don't just have to drop them off and run off. Maybe this is bad, I don't know. I just respond, "this is your choice, and Im just trying to give you the space you asked for"

She screamed "My Choice!, You think this is my choice!!". So I just calmly said I'm not going to argue and I am going to leave. She calls me a jackass. I told her just to call or text me later if she had something with the kids but I needed to get going. She screamed, "fine have it your way"She stormed off and I left.

20 minutes later she text:

W: We have a lot of years raising girls ahead of us. I wish you could talk to me.

Me:I understand why you feel that way but you didn't ask me anything? You didn't talk all weekend, im just trying to give you the space you need from me.

W: I just didn't think talking for 30 seconds was a big deal. You run out of here like Im going to beat you. You act scared of me, I don't want that.


I didn't respond to that.

How could I have handled that better. I never raised my voice, acted defensive, or argued. I just wanted to drop my kids off and go. She acts like we are supposed to be best friends and wants to talk. I can't be best friends with her when all I want is my marriage back, and I am still 100% in love and emotionally attached.

And to top it off, has no problem asking me to be there to get the girls ready tomorrow morning because she has an early meeting again.