D20 is home from college. I love her dearly, she also challenges me, as young adults often do their parents. But something is different this time. She has been out of the house and living with other people for a couple of years now. Learning to cohabitate with people other than her family. Not that she was ever without opinions, but college fuels the propensity to seek offense. To seek outrage. I hope this makes sense.
So now, when she overreacts to things and responds in what, in the past, I may have felt a disrespectful way, I no longer feel the need to react or even respond. Much more like water off a duck's back. Much more Alpha. I'm sure that I might have a tipping point. A point where I have heard enough. But for the most part, I feel much less desire to engage.
I find this encouraging and enlightening. I guess I'm growing. I guess with D20 away I haven't felt in direct competition with her.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
